Many new parents hold a lot of anxiety regarding the onset of the infamously named “terrible twos.” Understanding your toddler is the first step to creating a smoother relationship for you both. Planning family growth helps you to anticipate what it ahead.
Toddlers who are behaving terribly are usually dealing with feelings of deep frustration. As they get older, they are more aware of things that are around them but they may not be able to articulate their desires or they may be told “No” outright. Dealing with feelings of frustration is not something they have practice with, and tantrums are often the result. Giving children simple, limited choices can help them feel empowered without overwhelming them. Consistency is also essential in letting children know where the boundaries are so they don’t become confused. Sticking to what you say is the way to communicate that tantrums don’t get results.
Another source of frustration in toddlers is unpredictability. Having a regular routine will help them to predict what is happening next. This will create feelings of security in them and an understanding between the two of you.
Physical discomfort can be another factor. Teething is extremely painful and often is accompanied by a fever. Anyone would be crabby with such symptoms but they often can’t communicate how they are feeling or anticipate the relief that remedies can bring in the same way an adult can. Add to that growing pains and the bumps and bruises that come with learning to crawl and walk and it’s no wonder we call the “twos” terrible!
While there definitely are some cringe-worthy moments during your child’s evolution from infancy into toddlerhood, they don’t have to rule your life. Finding resources online that can help give you coping techniques is easy and can help you set up the structure necessary to minimize the difficult situations. Maximize the joy you can glean from the many wondrous moments that toddlerhood brings. Taking the time to educate yourself ahead of time will allow you to not only head off the terrible twos but it will also give you some peace of mind. This will allow you to spend some time to yourself, do some online shopping for jewelry at JRDunn.com, read a book or other activities to keep you sane during this time.
